I thought a lot about what to name this page. Helper syndrome. Relationship issues. But in order to heal, we’ve got to call it what it is. We don’t need labels and boxes for the fun of it. We need understanding, we need language and we need to know we’re not alone.

• You may be thinking “No, that’s not me. I’m not needy or dependent on others- I’m strong & independent. I’m not controlling- I’m helpful & I mean well.” I believe that you do mean well and are helpful, strong & independent. You also may possess some codependent qualities due to messages learned in childhood about finding your value in helping others and placing others needs before your own.

Codependency, like anxiety, looks different in different people. It’s important to identify how it shows up. Ask yourself some questions…

• Do you feel compelled to help others solve their problems? Feel angry when the help isn’t taken or isn’t effective?

• How about anticipating others needs & getting angry when others don’t do the same?

• More comfortable giving & helping, rather then asking & receiving support?

• Notice feeling angry, victimized, unappreciated or used?

• Are you quick to blame yourself for things & also take things personally that others do/say?

• Find yourself uncomfortable receiving compliments & praise?

• Is it a struggle to stop thinking and worrying about others & problems?

• Have a hard time loving yourself & seek love from others who can’t provide it?

• Struggle to communicate honestly, directly and effectively?

• Do you think you know best how things should go and how others should behave?

• Are you able to set and maintain healthy boundaries in relationships, balancing meeting your needs & theirs?

• Have a hard time trusting yourself, your feelings, your decisions and others?

If you answered a strong “YES” to some of these questions and are interested in learning more about codependency, or interested in doing the work to have a healthier relationship with yourself and others, I encourage you to click here to schedule a free phone consultation.